7 Dating Tips for Tall Men
Giving dating tips to tall men is like handing out dating advice to George Clooney.
Sure the greatest Don Juan of all time can always up his dating game, but if he didn’t improve one bit, well, he’d still be George freakin’ Clooney. Likewise, if tall guys didn’t heed the following tips, they’d still have the upper hand when it comes to winning the attention of a woman when compared to their smaller counterparts. Well endowed men of stature have something that short guys can only ever dream of -height.
Find a short single man on the prowl within a crowded bar and ask him what the one thing about this appearance he’d change, and undoubtedly he’d choose to add a few inches to his frame. All men know that one’s height and perceived attractiveness go hand in hand. Evolutionarily speaking, tall men are more attractive because they’re viewed as better protectors than short dudes. It’s this simple benefit of being tall that has women everywhere fawning over tall me… well, not all women.
While the vast majority of women prefer to date someone who’s at least as tall as they are, how attractive a woman is to a tall dude also depends on her height.
A 2013 study published in the renowned science journal Science Direct found that women were most satisfied when their partners were 8 inches taller than themselves. Most women are content to date someone between a few inches and 10 inches taller than themselves.
However, few women opt to date men that are over a foot taller than themselves. When’s the last time you saw a 5 foot woman being lifted up so she can kiss her 6 foot tall boyfriend? These relationships are rare and demonstrate that simply being tall doesn’t invariably make you more attractive in the eyes of the beholder.
This goes to show that even for tall guys there’s an opportunity to become even more attractive to potential romantic partners. In this article, we’ll provide you with crucial dating tips for tall men that will enhance your desirability.
Dating Tips For Tall Men
That’s great that you’re tall and all but there’s no need to be complacent. These tips will help you artfully use your size to your advantage.
Own Your Height
In one of the most popular polls regarding height and attraction, of the 470 women surveyed, 49% said they only date men that are taller than themselves. You heard right, short guys aren’t even considered. This overwhelming preference for tall men should encourage you to flaunt your height rather than hide it (as if the latter was even possible).
There’s no need to feel awkward about your height. Most men are envious of those taller and as we’ve established most women will only date guys taller than themselves. While you may feel the need to appear smaller than you are, don’t.
Don’t ever lie about your height on dating apps or post photos that make you appear shorter than you really are. Part of the reason women are so attracted to tall guys is because they appear to ooze confidence. In fact, a lot of stereotypes are attached to tall men. Tall guys are thought of as wealthier, smarter, and of high self-esteem.
Look, I hate to supply you with the same lines your Mother told you when you asked her how to woo your first crush, but her words were as true then as they were now… just be confident. Confidence is what women are most attracted to and is the chief reason why women love tall dudes. Confidence has a halo effect of sorts, enhancing all other characteristics. That being said, a lack of self-esteem has a polarizing impact on how you’re perceived.
Stand tall, accept who you are, and be confident.
Wear Sandals/Thin Shoes
For the most part, the women you ask out on dates while MegaDating will be super into your height. But as we’ve discussed, there’s a bit of a bell curve when talking about the optimal height of a male as it relates to his attractiveness.
A man’s physical allure begins to wane when the difference between the man and woman is more than 10 or so inches.
If you’re going out on a fancy date, chances are she’ll be getting dolled up and will wear heels. Naturally, you’ll reach for your pair of heeled leather Steve Maddens. If you want to maintain your sex appeal, it might be best to leave these at home. Instead, wear context-appropriate shoe attire that won’t add inches to your height.
That being said, this is only a short term way to keep your height disparity from getting in the way of your relationship. If you’re the type of guy that loves being himself and won’t make concessions, don’t start now. No relationship should start off with one party having to change who they are in order to earn the other’s acceptance. One’s height can’t be changed. If she’s not into you because of your height, don’t waste your time trying to change her mind. There are oodles of women who would love to be with a man of your height, trust me.
Call Your Height Out When Necessary
Dealbreakers can always be overcome. Republicans can date Democrats, Hawaiian pizza eaters can date those that prefer calzones, and Yankees fans can date Sox fans. Yet while all this is possible, overcoming those initial dealbreakers can take quite a while, and of course, aren’t always overcome or worth the investment of time and money.
If you sense that the height disparity might be a deal-breaker, be forthright and ask her what her height preference is. Ask her if she’s ever dated a tall guy before. If she’s clearly turned off by the prospect of seriously dating a man of your height, take the cue and find another woman to date Friday night.
That being said, if she is hesitant but is still is up for the date, don’t reject her. It’s a hell of a lot easier to gauge someone’s interest in person. For any date -but especially for women that don’t seem 100% into you- make sure the first date lasts no longer than an hour and no more than $10 is spent.
Why spend time and money on a woman that might not be interested in you? On the flip side, why would you want to spend money on a woman that you’re not interested in? One hour is just enough time to gauge whether or not this person is worth seeing again. Keeping first dates limited to just an hour apiece ensures that you have plenty of time to date a myriad of women while adhering to the MegaDating rulebook.
Create Dates That Even the Playing Field
You don’t have to continually remind her how much taller you are than her throughout the course of the date. Pitch her a date idea that sees you two heading to the beach, taking a yoga class, riding bikes, or any other date idea that doesn’t make her feel awkward at how much shorter she is than you.
Let’s remember that attraction goes two ways. Chances are she’s turned on by your height, but may feel as though her stature is a turn off for you. The less attractive and more insecure she’s feeling, the worse the date will go.
Boost her confidence by going on dates that attenuate the difference in height.
Stop Walking So Darn Quickly
Longer strides might result in you leaving your date in the dust. If you’re a fast walker by nature, this tendency will be exacerbated by your size. Be mindful of your strides and slow yourself down. Don’t force her to keep up with you, rather walk at a leisurely pace that amplifies your confidence rather than your size.
The key on any first date is to create an environment of warmth and comfort. If she doesn’t feel safe with you she won’t let her guard down and allow herself to have feelings for you. Foster this environment by not allowing your height to get in the way of making her feel safe.
Oddly enough what women are most attracted to is what we fear most.
Tall guys might have a tougher time at making a woman feel comfortable because of their size. You’re tall, strong, and can crush her like a bug. This is hot, but is also rightfully terrifying. Address these fears by refraining from being overly sexual.
By nature she finds you sexier and more aggressive than shorter guys. You may have to do more than other guys to comfort her. This means not making any sexual jokes, no swearing, no awkward touching, etc. Treat her with respect, laugh, listen to her, and show her that you can be trusted.
Use Dating App Filters
Regardless of whether a woman’s height matters to your or not we know that most women care a great deal about how tall their male counterparts are. Avoid women whose short stature may be the cause of decreased attraction. This means filtering out women via dating apps that are more than a foot shorter. Not all dating apps give you the option of filtering potential suitors via height.
OkCupid and Bumble are a couple of apps that allow you to search via filters. Personally I recommend downloading Bumble and filtering away women that just don’t measure up. To use the filter you’ll have to pay for a Bumble membership.
Stop Ruling Women Out
Let’s be honest with each other. You probably landed on this article because you searched google for “dating tips for tall guys.” You’ve been rejected one too many times and want to fix this issue for good. Women have told you in the past that your height is a deal-breaker. It’s these shutdowns that have led you to believe that women below a certain height just aren’t attracted to you.
The reality is women love tall men. Perhaps your anecdotal experience doesn’t align with this truth, but it’s only a matter of time before your experience validates this universal reality.
Keep putting yourself out there. Get rid of the mentality that “because she’s 5’2 she won’t be into you. It’s very likely that shorter women have never been approached by a guy such as yourself. This is in part because shorter women tend to attract shorter males, while tall men stick to taller women. She’d be thrilled to finally have attracted the attention of a lofty man such as yourself.
Keep your head held high and use the truth that women prefer tall guys to encourage you to continue flirting.
Remember that being tall should be viewed as a positive rather than a negative. Women freakin’ love tall dudes. Realize that you’re a highly coveted single man. Use this realization to imbue you with the confidence to get out there and date.
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